I am in no position to give advice, I am learning each and every day how this crazy world works and sometimes I lose myself in the insanity of this fast-paced life. This post takes more of a serious tone because I feel the need to share several of my most valuable words of wisdom. These are a couple of life lessons that I’ve adopted from some of the most important people in my life and I want to share them with you.
My dad and I are the same person. Stubbornness and ambition are two qualities that we could teach a college course on (my class would be better though, ha). We bicker about the dumbest things sometimes, relentlessly defending our position, even if we know the other person is right. We will never admit defeat (well, he has become a little more of pushover lately). But one thing I remember him telling me several years ago after one of our famous disagreements is that he was proud of me. I wondered, how could he be proud of me after this argument? It made no sense. But he went on to explain that he was proud that I had learned to stand up for what I knew in my heart, no matter who or what was standing against me. That is one thing that has stuck with me every single day of my life. I know it may seem like a pretty basic life rule, but too many people are silent about their beliefs. This has the potential to hurt people and cause a lot of disappointment. So thank you, dad. You may be wrong in 99% of our arguments, but you have taught me one of the most valuable lessons in life that I will always abide by.
Kyle, my 21-year-old brother (who acts like he’s 15 sometimes), is one of the greatest human beings to ever exist. I’m not joking. Anyone who knows my family always raves about how hilarious and charming Kyle is (HELLO PEOPLE, YOU’RE FORGETTING SOMEONE!! RIGHT HERE!!!). He has a heart of gold and can turn the darkest of days to light just by telling a joke or talking nonsense in one of his famous accents. He doesn’t take life too seriously which sometimes gets him into trouble with mom and dad, but it’s something that I admire tremendously. You have to be able to take a step back and look at your situation in life and determine if you’re just shuffling day-to-day, or if you’re actually enjoying it. Ask yourself: when things get stressful, do you shut down and lose faith, or do you attack your problems head on? I recommend the latter.
I am convinced that my mom, Janet, is an angel. I have never once heard a nasty comment or hurtful thing come out of her mouth. And I’m with her pretty much every second of the day… really, we’re attached at the hip. To give you an idea of how sweet she is, she won’t even honk the horn at someone when they cut her off in traffic. My dad and I, on the other hand, would without hesitation flick the bird and say some things you wouldn’t hear in Church (I mentioned were stubborn, right?). Seriously, I don’t know how she does it. Sometimes I let negative thoughts of self-doubt and hopelessness plague my mind, but my mom is always right there to remind me to block out those feelings. One of the most valuable lessons that I have learned from her is to surround yourself with kind people who truly want the best for you in life. In my opinion, there’s too much competition in today’s society. People, especially girls, are always comparing themselves to others and trying to conform to what our culture tells us is right or good. My mom taught me that you cannot let your little insecurities get to you or they will become you. So, like I said previously, you must expose yourself to good people with positive intentions. Also, I’ve found that in comparing yourself to others, you will always be unhappy. Someone will always be smarter, more athletic, wealthier, more popular than you. That’s just life. But you were put on this planet to be the best version of yourself and nobody else. There is so much beauty in diversity.
After going through a rough patch several weeks ago, I was feeling pretty discouraged. I decided to take a trip to my grandparents house (my dad’s parents) because they seem to know just what to say/do to lift my spirits. I had told my grandfather everything that had upset me and his response was absolutely priceless. He said, “Paige, when you go to sleep tonight, lay on your stomach and tell the world to kiss your ass.” Immediately, my sad mood was diminished and I felt a surge of laughter overwhelm me. I loved that advice. Obviously, this action wouldn’t banish my demons, but his outlook on the situation taught me to just let things go. As cliché and cheesy as this may sound, everything happens for a reason. People come into your life and walk out of it in moments that may seem inconvenient, but I truly believe that every negative experience in your life is a learning opportunity. You can’t let the hurtful times define you.
I don’t know if this post is relative to you, heck, I’m sure many people stopped reading after they saw the first sentence. But if you made it to the end, I hope that you enjoyed reading it. Of course there are hundreds of other critical life lessons that I’ve learned from others, but these seem to be most relevent in my life right now. Have a special day.